Going to a swinger hotel event for the first time and as a single male, conversation starters?

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I am off to my first swinger hookup What do you guys talk about? I’m a little nervous as I have never been to something like this. What is a good way to break the Ice?

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  1. Introduce yourself. Compliment her outfit, shoes, eyes don’t just say she is pretty or hot. Ask what her career choice is (not where she works), where she grew up, food, drinks. Find common ground.

  2. Hotel event? Like a meet & greet or a play party? In either case, say “hi” to people and make small talk. Get to know people and have fun! Assume nothing. Ask before you act. Put used condoms in trash cans.

    Make sure to read the LSPlaybook – all in there!

  3. No different than a work event or other party. Just speak to people. Pay attention to the husband’s first. You need their approval too.

  4. Not sure about the event. To be honest, I’m of the same disposition as others have said. LA has a rather robust lifestyle community. Hotel parties aren’t that rare but usually they’re associated with an established group and can be verified through lifestyle websites. This looks like some pimp trying to work his girls in some kind of low end brothel style.

    As for icebreakers… well, attitude is everything. If you go into a legit lifestyle party/gathering and have this expectation of getting laid. You’re doing it all wrong. As the single male… *you’re the accessory.* Not the main event. The best way to overcome this is to simply be social with others at the party. Keep in mind that there’s usually a vetting process involved with most single males. Most single males at established events have already introduced themselves, been social, or have established others be able to “vouch” for them. These are your best icebreakers.

    If you’re brave enough to fly solo. Remember that you’re the minority and not the priority. Acting like lifestyle couples “owe you” a fuck because you had to pay double will get you into trouble. It’s a setup for disappointment. If you’re chill, socialize, and talk with couples about things (other than sex) you increase your chances.

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