Advice from the ladies

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Been in the lifestyle in my past relationships and dabble now. Enjoyed myself sometimes but if being truthful, went along with a lot of it in the past. It wasn’t bad experiences but I found I liked the sex and flirting in public. It wasn’t about having sex so much as probably more of being taboo.

Now I’m with someone who also is experienced with the scene. I know it’s not his top priority but he’s very sexual. I love how he freely expresses what he thinks like saying “she’s cute, I’d fuck her.” That doesn’t bother me – in fact I wish my brain was wired like that but it’s not. I don’t see someone attractive and equate it to a desire to have sex.

So question ladies, how did you know you were ready to see your man fuck another woman in front of you? Anyone else think about this scenario and want to please your partner but believe in the end that it won’t turn you on but in fact possibly have the opposite affect? Do you think sex with others is fun? Does it really add anything to your relationship or just make you feel like you’re attractive because you simply like the attention? Struggling with what I really think and believe here so much appreciated!

 

 

5 COMMENTS

  1. So many questions!

    Let address just the first one: men are hardwired to spread their semen and think about sex all the time. When my husband told me that, I didn’t believe it. He told me that in meetings, he looks at each woman and thinks: I’d fuck that one; that one, never in a million years; that one I could do right now; that one I my if she was with me on a desert island…. so I asked guys at my work: that said they thought exactly the same way.

    Maybe it’s just sales people….

    So you can definitely feel a bit offended if your SO says that all the time, like I was, so I asked my husband to not say this each time; but that’s what he thinks for sure. 24/7. The lifestyle to him is like a pressure valve on a pressure cooker: playing with a different woman from time to time allows him to not cheat.

  2. If you see your man giving another woman great pleasure until she screams and you can look on with pride, not jealousy, knowing he’s coming home with YOU, then you’re ready to share your man.

  3. WOW! As a guy I need to chime in. We have been in the lifestyle for 20 years. Good looking couple who takes care of ourselves. We are picky as hell, it’s fun to flirt but who we decide to fuck is much more complicated.

    Saying I’d fuck her without ever meeting them, knowing personally, etc…just would never happen. It’s a slap in the face to you the woman! It’s also incredibly shallow and proves he is there to simply fuck anything to get his satisfaction. Some what like a male lion. It’s about breeding, that’s it!

    I would never disrespect my wife in this manner. For us it’s all about the connection!

    To say it keeps him from cheating is even more concerning. You are using the lifestyle to deal with a marriage problem, his would be cheating. We have witnessed this in the LS, does nothing but create drama and pollute the LS.

    If I were you I’d get out of the LS ASAP and deal with the real marriage issues. Otherwise, the writing is on the wall I’m afraid. If he’s going to disrespect you and cheat I’d get out.

  4. I do think sex with others is fun. That being said, we are a team. I don’t take one for the team and neither does he. Being in the lifestyle so far has strengthened our trust for one another SO MUCH. We’ve never been so in love. It’s so refreshing to see how much our trust we have for each other. It’s amazing to go out and have recreational sex, dive deep into our fantasies, and be partners in finding a cute couple to fool around with.. all while knowing we get to go home together and have the best sex ever!

  5. My two cents,
    1. NEVER START A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SINGLE FEMALE OR MALE.
    2. START WITH COUPLES ONLY.
    3. ALL MALES HAVE AT ONE POINT OR ANOTHER SAID “I’D FUCK HER”
    BASED ON LOOKS ALONE. BUT IT’S HARMLESS MALE TRAIT.
    4. DON’T GO LOOKING FOR AN UNICORN, THEY AREN’T WORTH IT.
    5. DON’T ALLOW A SEPERATE RELATIONSHIP IF YOU AREN’T PART OF IT.

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