Been in the lifestyle in my past relationships and dabble now. Enjoyed myself sometimes but if being truthful, went along with a lot of it in the past. It wasn’t bad experiences but I found I liked the sex and flirting in public. It wasn’t about having sex so much as probably more of being taboo.
Now I’m with someone who also is experienced with the scene. I know it’s not his top priority but he’s very sexual. I love how he freely expresses what he thinks like saying “she’s cute, I’d fuck her.” That doesn’t bother me – in fact I wish my brain was wired like that but it’s not. I don’t see someone attractive and equate it to a desire to have sex.
So question ladies, how did you know you were ready to see your man fuck another woman in front of you? Anyone else think about this scenario and want to please your partner but believe in the end that it won’t turn you on but in fact possibly have the opposite affect? Do you think sex with others is fun? Does it really add anything to your relationship or just make you feel like you’re attractive because you simply like the attention? Struggling with what I really think and believe here so much appreciated!